The Future of Conflict

Every conflict we experience has a reason behind it.

I believe there's a lesson inside each conflict that will unlock our ability to go Beyond and hit the next level.

There are certain of human interaction patterns that help us get the most out of conflict.

The Future of Conflict is about finding and practicing those patterns.

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Every week I will read a book related to conflict resolution and send you the my top insights.

There will be a lot of variety:

- Theory of community building and conflict resolution

- Experiments in human psychology

- History of ongoing and "solved" conflicts

- Understanding the forces that feed conflict (humiliation, scarcity, governance, Othering).

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If you see yourself as a mediator and want to be Part of the Solution, this is for you.

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Each week's email will present the key insights from whatever I studied that week as well as experiments you can run in your own life inspired by that week's insights.

I'll also link to a curated list of my favorite quotes from the work in question in case you want to go deeper into the primary source.

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The emails won't be summaries (nobody remembers those) and they won't be reviews (do we need more critics?).

I will be Milking the Text for anything potentially valuable during our journey towards the Beloved Community.

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Conflict exists at all scales: within us, between us, and around us.

My goal is to give you tools to improve all your relationships: with yourself, with your families, your friends, your communities, and the broader world of humankind.

In doing so, you will undoubtedly grow in the kind of leadership we all so desperately need.

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Membership has its privileges:

• The weekly Future of Conflict email (the main event)
• A Web-based archive of all previous Future of Conflict emails
• An opportunity to decide what goes on the reading list (periodic polls and votes)
• Printable PDF versions of Future of Conflict emails (what's up, luddites? I got your back!)
• Async Q&A with me about how these insights can be even more relevant to your life
• Access to a 1:1 Zoom/Phone Conflict Coaching session with me, if you ever need it

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Update: There are currently 18 episodes of this newsletter. You will gain access to all 18 episodes immediately. We are a taking a break from new episodes, so instead of getting an email every week, you will just gain access to all 18 newsletters, and you can cancel your subscription when you're satisfied.

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Here's the list:

#1: Love Israel, Support Palestine (Nir Avishai Cohen)

#2: Moral Tribes (Joshua Greene)

#3: Start With No (Jim Camp)

#4: Speaking of Faith (Krista Tippet)

#5: Getting Past No (William Ury)

#6: Conscious Uncoupling (Katherine Woodward Thomas)

#7: Mediation and the Evolution of Democracy (Ken Cloke)

#8: Swiss Democracy (Linder and Mueller)

#9: Deliberative Democracy (Marcin Gerwin)

#10: The Art of Gathering (Priya Parker)

#11: The Art of Asking Questions (Ken Cloke)

#12: Large Group Multi-Stakeholder Dialogue (Ken Cloke + Ankur Shah)

#13: Strength In What Remains (Tracy Kidder)

#14: A Guide To Divorce Mediation (Gary J. Friedman)

#15: Healing Resistance Part I (Kazu Haga)

#16: Healing Resistance Part II (Kazu Haga)

#17: Healing Resistance Part III (Kazu Haga)

#18: The Peru and Ecuador Peace Process, 1988 (Jamil Mahaud and others)

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Yours,

Ankur (ankurdelight.com)